How many times have we all been told "Its all about the Bride"? Is that really the case nowadays?
A lot has to do with the way we have been conditioned to think. For decades, marketing companies have focused their attention on the bride, mainly due to the fact that (and I'm sorry Ladies) women really hold the purse strings when it comes to wedding spending. Or at least thats the way it used to be. Daddy made sure his little girl had the wedding she always dreamed of. And let's face it, most little girls have always dreamt of being a bride at least once in their lives. They've pictured themselves walking down that long aisle in a flowing white wedding gown with fresh flowers and beautiful wedding invitations. Websites like The Knot have brides scanning page after page of design and decor in hopes of getting a jump start on ideas ahead of the game. The dreams may change as they grow older, but they're still there, even if under the pretense of 'looking for a friend'.
But what about guys? The Bridal Library would love to find a published poll out there to see how many men actually dream about their wedding day. We do know that men dream about the 'type of girl they'll settle down with' (even though some may not admit to this). And what we also know as planners is that around 75% of men, contrary to popular belief, also want to be involved in the wedding planning. Some may want more hands-on involvement than others and some would just like to know where to start.
According to a recent story by ABC News, men are not only stepping up to the wedding plate, but are also turning into Groomzillas. This is a great story on men who take the initiative and actually plan everything from the proposals (even hiring professional proposal planners) to planning everything to do with their weddings. Some take it to extremes.
Judging by all the recent development of wedding planning sites out there for men, it is clear that men are actively getting more involved in the wedding itself and helping make serious decisions. Because most are also paying for the wedding, they want to know where their money is going. Online advice columns guide the groom-to-be on things to discuss at vendor meetings, wedding costs, budgeting and all the formalities before, during and even after the wedding. Sites like GROOMS TURN and GROOM POWER cover everything from planning tips to a Groom's Registry to help with gifts that the 'little man of the house' can enjoy after the celebrations are complete.
So what spurred this change in the way men are becoming involved? Our guess is that the recent surge of online activity making it easier for men to research wedding planning has helped.
Also, the fact that couples are waiting a bit longer to get married as well as contributing financially (more now than ever before) to pay for the celebrations, plays a big role in the groom wanting and needing to know more about the big day.
When a couple have been living together for more than a year and plan a wedding together, it just makes common sense that the groom should be involved in the planning process. According to THE PLUNGE,
This site was probably the most humorous as well as containing useful information a guy can relate to.
Other sites such as Groom Bug and Dex Knows help grooms plan everything from vetting the vendors to choosing the perfect songs. Some of our favorite sites are the ones that put more emphasis on proposals, choosing rings and choosing the perfect honeymoon. The Man Registry and Huffington Post's Groom's Guide to Honeymoons is no doubt the most informative sites online and covers formalities as well as pleasantries and wedding etiquette.
Its a new day in wedding planning and we think its time to 'move over brides-to-be' and make way for the 'blushing groom'.
Elyn Rahman has been designing beautiful weddings for two decades. In her design series, she gives insight, ideas and practical advice for those who wish to plan weddings as a career. In this blog, she shares just a few of her creations. She shares some of her personal favorites during her hands-on workshops in the design series.