A friend sent me an article that was posted in a newspaper about a new trend called B-List Invitations. Yes folks, there are people out there who are actually sending out B-List Invitations! What would Emily Post say to that? Shock, horror and all that jazz!
For those who aren't aware, wedding invitations are sometimes divided up into two categories.
There are of course, reasons why brides use a B-list and some are justified. Here are just a few:
I know I'll ruffle some feathers here but at the end of the day, just pick up the phone and talk to people you care about. Explain to them that your budget or venue only allows for a certain amount of guests and while you wish you could invite everyone, you simply cannot. Don't blame your fiancé or your family members or your wedding planner. Just be honest with people. Those that assume they will get an invitation (co-workers and old friends who you haven't been in touch with since grade school) should not put you in a position of explaining. Should they be rude enough to insist they be invite, then they'll be able to take the truth. Those who are true friends, will understand and will appreciate the honesty much more than an invitation letting them know they're an 'after-thought'.
The correct way of sending secondary invitations out is with time enough between the first tiered invites and the RSVP date. If you are hosting a Destination Wedding, it is customary to send the invitations out as far as 3-4 months in advance (to allow guests to look into travel, accommodations, etc.). It's not unheard of to even send them 6 months for overseas weddings. Traditional invitations are sent 8-12 weeks ahead of time to allow time for RSVPs to arrive back in time. (This is providing you don't have to call a good 1/3rd of the guests on your list to beg them to send the RSVP back).
Within the first 2-3 weeks of your invitations being sent out, you will soon receive RSVPs and phone calls. You can then address your B-List one at a time. Remember, a dead giveaway is sending the B-List invitation too close to the RSVP date.
Elyn Rahman has been designing beautiful weddings for two decades. In her design series, she gives insight, ideas and practical advice for those who wish to plan weddings as a career. In this blog, she shares just a few of her creations. She shares some of her personal favorites during her hands-on workshops in the design series.